Bullying, Domestic Violence, Stalking and Street Harassment


Bullying, Domestic Violence, Stalking and Street Harassment – are they really so different?

We constantly pussy-foot around these issues by making excuses, and either compartmentalizing or minimizing toxic behaviors. It should not be this difficult for a society to recognize HARASSMENT, which is how it usually starts. After it escalates or continues over a period of time, it has evolved into ASSAULT.

It’s as simple as that!

Would you recognize stalking behavior?


Stalking behavior has nearly become an “epidemic” in the US. Learned through interpersonal behaviors in the family and with peers, it is perhaps the most efficient way to get whatever it is that one wants. It is becoming common to see the behavior in business and government these days.

I challenge you to correctly identify it whenever you hear someone or some group of people being blamed. I promise that you will see your world much more clearly by doing so. When you are skilled at stalking behavior identification, please speak up and educate others about this nefarious social disorder that endangers the freedoms of all of us.


January is Stalking Awareness Month

Police departments should be prepared to handle stalking victimization. Sadly, most are not prepared, particularly when technology is involved.

Personally, I don’t get it. This is not a “new” crime at all; just a more effective delivery method. The problem seems to lie with the established thought that private matters are not police matters. There is another school of thought that women are over-reacting to “normal” relationship problems.

However, anyone who has been properly trained should know that stalking goes well-beyond simple jilted lover spats. It involves a pattern of threatening behavior by a previous intimate partner, a peer or a stranger. It involves good record-keeping, investigation and follow-up. When stalking cases are handled properly, lives are saved.



Did you know that 6.6 million people are stalked in one year in the United States? Statistics show that 1 in 6 women, and 1 in 19 men have experienced stalking victimization at some point during their lifetime (Michele C. Black et al., “The National Intimate Partner and Sexual Violence Survey: 2010 Summary Report,” Atlanta, GA: National Center for Injury Prevention and Control, Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, 2011). This January marks the 10th anniversary of National Stalking Awareness Month, a resolution that was set into motion after Peggy Klinke was murdered by her stalker in California in 2003. Law enforcement agencies can use this month to highlight resources available to stalking victims, become more familiar with their state’s stalking laws, and ensure that stalking offenders are being held accountable in their communities.

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New York State

A3243-2013 – NY Senate Open Legislation – Creates the new crime of cyber harassment; and increases the penalties for the crimes of harassment and stalking when committed against a child – New York State Senate.

The laws in NY State are crystal clear, yet they are almost NEVER enforced.  I have evidence; lots of evidence, yet “no crime has been committed.”  I want to sue the county and the state, but the victim – my sister, doesn’t think it is worth the effort.  Her ex-husband has also made his intentions crystal clear.  If anything happens to her there will be hell to pay.

Narcissist Slayer

Thank you Kim Saeed over at Let Me Reach for honoring Human Rights vs. Stalkers with the Narcissist Slayer blog award!   Stalkers are notorious narcissists who have a score to settle with those who dare to defy them.   Simply stated, they want what they want immediately when they want it, and cannot fathom someone telling them “no.”  In the case of stalkers, an intimate partner belongs to them and them only.  They will not rest until they either recoup their lost property, or they make sure nobody else gets it.  This includes their former romantic partners – it is not uncommon for a stalker to be stalking several people simultaneously.


I have had the misfortune of having encountered several narcissists in my personal and professional life.  However, they have propelled me to work smarter and harder.  I believe my narcisstic ex-husband also drove me to become an awesome parent, which he was incapable of doing himself!

The rules for this award are:

1. Thank the person who nominated you and link back to them.

2. Put the award’s logo on your blog.

3. Write a blog post and share the blog(s) you have chosen- there are no minimum or maximum number of blogs required.

4.  Inform your nominees on their site.

5.  Share one positive thing that you took away from your relationship with a Narcissist.

It is my pleasure to pass this award along to the following bloggers:

Thank you all for the hard work you are doing to bring awareness to the increasingly common, dreadful disorder called narcisism.