Shauny Award for Blogging Excellence


I want to send a big “Thank You” to Avalanche of the Soul for honoring Human Rights Vs. Stalkers with the Shauny Award.

The Rules for accepting the Shauny Award:

Show humanity, show love, be yourself, don’t be others, don’t gossip, and share this award with ten others.

I am nominating the following top-notch bloggers to share in this honor:

After Narcisstic Abuse

Mirrorgirl: My life as a psychologist

Let Me Reach with Kim Saeed

bWe Baptist Women for Equality

Truth, Justice, and All-American Allergen-Free Apple Pie

The Abuse Expose’ with Secret Angel

Shameless Survivors

Writing Injustice

Lift Up Ur Voice

Thank you all for the hard work you do to make this world a better place!

3 Components of Rape Culture and What You Can Do to Fight Back

Rape culture is an invasive norm in the United States. Not only does it harm females, but it is a threat to our entire society. We must challenge rape culture ideals at every opportunity. In doing so, our young men and young women will have a much higher chance at living a mutually respectful, successful, satisfying life. This article raises awareness. We must be willing to stand up and say, “that is an abusive attitude, which I will not accept.”

Psychology Benefits Society

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By Christin P. Bowman, MS, MA (Doctoral student in Critical Social-Personality Psychology at The Graduate Center, City University of New York)

**Trigger warning. This blog is about sexual violence.**

Let’s make something clear right from the start: Rape is caused by rape culture.

Rape culture has many ingredients, and like any successful recipe, once you blend them together, it’s harder to taste the individual flavors. Rape culture is so entrenched in our society, and its components so ubiquitous, we may sense that something doesn’t taste right, but be at a loss to pinpoint the problem.

This blog will break down the main components of rape culture and then give you concrete ways to combat it.

#1: Power, Anger, & Hyper-masculinity

While it may be true that men do the vast majority of the raping, men who rape did not become rapists in a vacuum.

Our society values men…

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NO MORE “boys will be boys!”

A district attorney’s office is in hot water over this:

Montana Prosecutor Allegedly Told Mother of 5-Year-Old Sexual-Assault Victim That “Boys Will Be Boys” | Mother Jones.

I am encouraged by the Dept. of Justice inquiry into this matter. All across the US, District Attorney offices are allowed to play judge and jury in deciding whether a crime gets prosecuted. Unless there is a good chance of a payout via offender fines or political favors, these cases usually get swept under the rug. This is a blatant violation of civil rights for the female victims.

It’s about time the US Dept. of Justice starts holding District Attorney offices accountable for their inactions. I hope it is a sign of things to come. DA’s, like other members of the law enforcement community, are supposed to serve and protect victims; it seems like they are more of a fee-for-service business these days.

The Roots of Misogyny

ImageThere is a marked increase in worldwide violence against women. We see it in India, and Syria, and in the USA.  Why are we seeing so much gender-based violence? The term “misogyny” can be defined as either the hatred of the female gender, or as a patriarchal construct that views the female gender as having less value than the male gender.  

Many women, and some men, believe misogyny is the root cause of violence against women.  Most men, and some women, disagree with this view.  They believe men have been getting a “bad rap” for decades, thanks to the women’s rights movement.  They argue that women can be just as abusive as men.  They are quick to blame sensationalism in the media for the vilification of men as the primary aggressors.  Citing the “militant feminist movement” as an anti-male conspiracy, some men are fighting back by forming a “men’s rights movement.”

They attack their female counterparts by using undermining tactics such as attempting to discredit peer-reviewed research on gender-based violence, and disseminating false research designed to prove that men are the primary victims at the hands of female abusers.  They encourage members to troll on women’s social media sites to scare women away, or to “infiltrate” women’s online communities by creating fake domestic violence support pages.  The goal is to trick women, making them feel harrassed or threatened by female peers, and turning them off from the “craziness” of purveyors of women’s rights ideology.  Their leaders encourage and justify the use of these strategies as a necessary means for the preservation of the male species.

Conversley, several men’s groups have begun their own movement to reinvent positive masculinity.  They share in the perception of the women’s rights movement, pointing out the fact that gender-based stereotypes are oppressive to BOTH sexes.  They point out the dysfunction of aggressive behavior in society, preferring to trade it with a more rational, logical means of co-existence.  Parenthood is one of the bonds that brings these men together.  They don’t intend to be a passive influence in the lives of their children; rather, they want to invest ample time, and share equally in the parenting responsibilities alongside their partners. 

We are a culture with an identity crisis caused by the major shifting of institutional structures including family construct, educational objectives, and the collapse of religion, in coordination with current political and economic instability.  The central theme guiding all social movements is a perceived sense of disempowerment.  We rise up for change to preserve a way of life after being left without enough adequate options.  The issue quickly turns from self-preservation to fighting against the perceived enemy.

The men’s rights and women’s rights movements will not find solutions to their problems by beating eachother down.  Likewise, adding insult to injury is counterproductive.  As we struggle to find the balance, we must act with respect and dignity for the entire human race.  We are sure to find that there is no dominant gender; without one, we simply cannot have the other.  The correct answers; however, lay within our ability to empathize and reason with others as we navigate the paths before us.



The Future of Stalking is Now

I believe stalking incidence statistics will dramatically increase over the next few years. This is not because the technology is “bad,” but it does provide the vehicle for stalkers to exert maximum damage. However, the crisis can be averted if we ACT NOW to prevent it.

HAVEN Give Hope A Voice

Guest post by: Richelle Duane, Civil Advocacy Supervisor, HAVEN

When I was growing up cartoons, movies, and television shows about the future were pretty common.  There was The Jetsons, Back to the Future and Star Trek, just to name a few.  These ideas of what the future may look like and be like were exciting and fascinating but at the same time seemed so far away and fantastical.  It was hard to believe any of it could or would ever be reality.  Little did I know that the future was only a few short decades away.

Granted we aren’t all flying around in hover crafts, teleporting, or living in outer space; at least not yet.  But the rate at which technology has evolved, the devices we now have and the things we are now capable of are astounding compared to just 30 years ago.  While these technological advances are impressive and…

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