We try to do the proper, reasonable thing during a break-up. We don’t want to be “mean,” and we do want to uphold our “dignity” throughout the process. Denial about the seriousness of the abuse has set in, so we don’t think we are in danger. These are the mistakes we make that can ultimately get us killed.
Part of the problem is that we still love our abusers. We are trying not to “hurt” them (or ourselves) too much by letting them go slowly. This is why it is imperative to become emotionally prepared before the breakup, to avoid deadly mistakes.
You tried to end the relationship with your Narcissistic partner, and suddenly they bombarded you with loving texts and emails, and/or showed up at your social events or place of employment. It’s like the high school boyfriend – on steroids.
For those who haven’t experienced these kinds of behavior before, the difference between (feigned) affection and mental instability can be blurred. In fact, under the influence of the Narcissist, we often come loose at the seams and their psychopathic behaviors don’t seem so bad, after all. This is frightening in itself because it’s a sign that we are losing the capacity for logical thought.
See how he loves and misses me so deeply that he can’t go a minute without me?
I invite you to come out of the crazy-making, victim peptide-induced haze and see what’s going on. Think back to your past relationships and make some distinctions about your…
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