My most recent article examines the emerging social problem of revenge porn and analyzes critical factors that precipitate a specific response by law enforcement.
Yesterday was the International Day to End Violence Against Women. UN Secretary-General Ban Ki-moon has proclaimed the 25th day of every month to be an #orangeday as a visible means of solidarity for men and women who oppose violence against women and girls.
16 Days of Activism against Gender Violence was initiated in 1991. Beginning on November 25th of each year, it is an international campaign designed to raise awareness for gender-based violence and a call to action for advocates to rise up and promote change.
The Secretary-General’s Unite Campaign asks everyone to #orangeurworld through December 10th, the International Human Rights Day. The message is clear: gender-based violence is a serious violation of human rights that impacts the security of entire nations.
For more information on how you can become involved, please visit the #16daysofactivism campain page at Say NO – UNiTE.
We try to do the proper, reasonable thing during a break-up. We don’t want to be “mean,” and we do want to uphold our “dignity” throughout the process. Denial about the seriousness of the abuse has set in, so we don’t think we are in danger. These are the mistakes we make that can ultimately get us killed.
Part of the problem is that we still love our abusers. We are trying not to “hurt” them (or ourselves) too much by letting them go slowly. This is why it is imperative to become emotionally prepared before the breakup, to avoid deadly mistakes.
You tried to end the relationship with your Narcissistic partner, and suddenly they bombarded you with loving texts and emails, and/or showed up at your social events or place of employment. It’s like the high school boyfriend – on steroids.
For those who haven’t experienced these kinds of behavior before, the difference between (feigned) affection and mental instability can be blurred. In fact, under the influence of the Narcissist, we often come loose at the seams and their psychopathic behaviors don’t seem so bad, after all. This is frightening in itself because it’s a sign that we are losing the capacity for logical thought.
See how he loves and misses me so deeply that he can’t go a minute without me?
I invite you to come out of the crazy-making, victim peptide-induced haze and see what’s going on. Think back to your past relationships and make some distinctions about your…
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The experts speak about data on femicide, familicide and suicide in domestic violence cases that result in death at the hands of a male abuser.
Harrassment is harrassment, threats are threats, and crime is crime; regardless of whether it happens face-to-face, by postal mail, over the phone, or on a screen. Free speech in a civilized society is guaranteed only until it is used to infringe upon the rights of others. If you don’t have consent to put racy pics up, you are committing a sexual-related, misogynistic (look it up) offense – it’s as simple as that.
Women are supposed to be graceful and classy, not aggressive and loud, right? While we spend our time and energy achieving passive perfection, there are men who seek these traits in their classic victim. I can’t tell you how many times I have watched women absolutely destroyed by an ex because they didn’t want to be rude and unreasonable.
At the same time, the family court judges are ready to pounce on any “unladylike” behavior as a means of determining the “best interest of the children.” In other words, you are “damned if you do, and damned if you don’t” in the saga of removing your family from an abuser.
The solution lies in tactful planning and skillful precision. You almost need to become as manipulative as the abuser to outwit him. Yet, you must maintain your dignity in the face of the legal system. It isn’t easy, but the lives of you and your children depend on it.
Someday, when enough blood of women and children has been shed, people will rise up and demand change to the antiquated, patriarchal legal system that currently enables abusers. Survivors will unite and fight for our sisters, who bare the next generation of human beings. Until that day arrives, be safe and protect your family with your God-given wisdom.