Crazy-makers Are Popping Up Everywhere


We call them “crazy-makers,” because they enjoy re-creating us in their image of insanity. You’ve probably met at least one during your lifetime: the guy who calls his girlfriend “paranoid” as he is having several flings behind her back, or perhaps the girl who tells fakes pregnancy with every boy she dates. These people are unstable narcissistic sociopaths who love the favorable spotlight. But watch out if you make them look bad in front of their many admirers! Popularity is of utmost importance in their eyes, usually at the expense of anybody who crosses them. You may wish to further investigate a fascinating phenomenon of their characteristics called the “dark triad.”

Why then, are they so adored by others? There are a few reasons people cling to them in spite of the terrible things crazy-makers do. Entertainment value is the number one motivator – people love watching a good show between a sociopath and his targets. They admire his cunning creativity and manipulative skills in transforming a target into a buffoon. Yes, some folks are always going to root for the villain, perhaps even taking a few tips and pointers for their own evil deeds. Of course, you will always have the gullible folks who actually believe everything the narcissist says without question. Then there are the greedy folks who believe they can help themselves to a piece of crazy-making pie by playing along, whether it be money, drugs, sex, or whatever suits their fancy.

Sociopathy is said to be the result of an underlying personality disorder, usually formed during childhood as the result of some series of physical or emotional traumatic events. My personal theory is that they are socialized using a manner of backward rewards and punishments for negative and positive behaviors. Furthermore, I believe they have a necessary purpose in the evolution (or devolution) of mankind: they polarize civilization, lest we all become too complacent and disaffected by the forces of evil. To clarify, a balanced society must have good people to counteract against bad people, but we can only become good through the rejection of evil, requiring that evil must exist if we are to also exist. Perhaps living beings require positive AND negative forces?

It seems like these forces are currently out of balance when we look at the disturbing events as of late. My personal and professional experiences have been sprinkled with more than a few crazy-makers. Someday I’ll write more about them, but today I’d like to remind you how a majority of good people have been drowning out their evil little voices with conversations which include words like “hope,” “faith,” and “love.” I believe it was the older, humbled King Solomon of the Bible who stated in Ecclesiastes 1:9: “What has been will be again, what has been done will be done again; there is nothing new under the sun.” We have survived many evils, including civil unrest, disease, and war, because we refuse hatred and we choose love. As warriors of light, we will continue proclaiming words of truth and justice for all people.

Be strong in faith.

Be brave in hope.

Be true in love.

Bullying, Domestic Violence, Stalking and Street Harassment


Bullying, Domestic Violence, Stalking and Street Harassment – are they really so different?

We constantly pussy-foot around these issues by making excuses, and either compartmentalizing or minimizing toxic behaviors. It should not be this difficult for a society to recognize HARASSMENT, which is how it usually starts. After it escalates or continues over a period of time, it has evolved into ASSAULT.

It’s as simple as that!

Political Activism – Hate is at the Root of Community Violence

Please forgive my absence from this blog lately, and know that I have been extremely busy on the political activism front these days. We are witnessing exciting events, both encouraging and fearful, as the world is realizing that hate is at the root of all kinds of community violence – racially motivated, gender-based, and related to sexual orientation. Really, it is becoming evident that as in ancient times, people continue to form tribes based on similarities, and they exclude those who are different or do not conform to the tribes’ norms. Feeling threatened by the perceived infiltration of different ones, they are quick to ostracize and condemn the eccentric ones. In other words, they justify hateful behaviors against anyone who is different as a means of protecting the core tribe. Digital globalization has shattered our ability to remain in secluded tribes, and we must either adjust to the reality of diversity, or we will find ourselves having the similar fate of ancient tribes…

I do also want to mention a couple of interesting points on the domestic violence front. First, in regards to the Ray Rice dismissal of charges, please see my thoughts on the Tumblr blog:

Second, NBC is looking for survivors for an upcoming special. The details are on the Facebook page:

Thanks for supporting our cause. It reminds me how each of our individual lives do matter, and how strong a force we are when we join together!



Would you recognize stalking behavior?


Stalking behavior has nearly become an “epidemic” in the US. Learned through interpersonal behaviors in the family and with peers, it is perhaps the most efficient way to get whatever it is that one wants. It is becoming common to see the behavior in business and government these days.

I challenge you to correctly identify it whenever you hear someone or some group of people being blamed. I promise that you will see your world much more clearly by doing so. When you are skilled at stalking behavior identification, please speak up and educate others about this nefarious social disorder that endangers the freedoms of all of us.


Exit…Stage Right, Upon the Midnight Hour

“Don’t you know that a midnight hour comes when everyone has to take off his mask? Do you think life always lets itself be trifled with? Do you think you can sneak off a little before midnight to escape this?”
Søren Kierkegaard


If we matter, then our words and actions carry substance too. Our existence within the Age of Virtual Reality, a period marked by digital innovations and rapid communications, keeps us safely tucked away behind our monitor screens. We become whatever we desire to be. Our avatars are not restricted to a face, and they abide in whatever scene best suits them.

Our virtual environment resembles a painter’s canvas, and is limited only by the reach of our imaginations. As social beings, we are compelled to piece our well-rounded lives inside compatible spaces, constructing a network of our own design. We strive to make our virtual life resemble our reality.

Yet, life does not come with a guaranteed number of perfectly shaped puzzle pieces, nor does it offer the smooth, stable surfaces necessary for the erection of a 3-D creation of our imagination. Whatever we do will affect those around us – this is one of nature’s laws. If we destroy our virtual neighbor’s property, we will face consequences for doing so. If we destroy people’s reputations online, we will be called out and confronted by our victims.

Everything we do is online is subject to the scrutiny of our peers. What is acceptable behavior within our neighborhood, may not be appropriate in a neighboring community of peers from diverse backgrounds. We might think it’s alright to exit…stage left, or to say, “goodnight folks; the show’s over!” But does our audience really believe us as they either shout for an encore, or continue throwing tomatoes at the stage?

You are the only person with the power to control your virtual performance, your setting, and your plot. You can contribute to your social network’s growth or it’s demise. That choice is yours alone. Just remember that the fabric of our society, whether online and offline, always has and always will depend specifically upon your choices and actions.